Like every parent who wants her son to become a dragon and her daughter to become a phoenix, when my child was just six years old, I gave her a white piano, hoping that she would become a female version of Lang Lang (silly wish). Of course, I know it’s just a good wish on my part. Who wouldn’t want to have a good wish, right?
It is said that education cannot be lost at the starting line, and I am also a mother who has been brainwashed by many people. Seeing that other people’s children are learning musical instruments, I also ruthlessly bought a white piano for my children, and I knew that little girls like beautiful white. When the child came home, when he saw this beautiful piano, he jumped up happily and shouted: “What a beautiful piano!” Then, the child did not open the lid of the piano, but climbed on top of the piano, touched the smooth surface of the piano, and crawled around on the piano.
After a few days, I thought that the novelty of the child had passed, but I did not expect that one night, the child said to me, Mom, this piano is the most fun toy. See! In the eyes of a pure child, a piano is a piano, or even a big toy of hers, hahaha. At that moment, I was ashamed to realize what a complex social function the piano has in the eyes of our adults! We hope to reach the female version of Lang Lang through the piano; We hope that through piano, we can pursue artistic specialties in the future; We hope that through the piano, children will have more ways to show off… In short, adult ideas are too utilitarian.
It was at this moment that I gave up the purpose of bringing utilitarianism to children through the piano, that is, simply let children learn the piano happily, and did not force children to go to the examination. Many children around me were originally interested in the piano, but for utilitarian purposes, parents forced their children to go to the examination when they were still very young, and as a result, the children lost their original interest and gave up learning the piano. There are many, many cases of these failures.
Due to my laissez-faire, the child likes to play the piano more and more, in the lower grade of the child’s primary school, I took the child to participate in various piano competitions in Shanghai, Hong Kong, Beijing, the child also competed, achieved excellent results, when a little older, the child took the initiative to ask for the examination, and finally obtained the piano level 10 certificate.
My experience is that the child’s world is very pure, do not instill adult utilitarian thinking in children too early, and let children find their own interests. There are many extracurricular classes now, and I hope that parents will let their children choose for themselves, rather than acting on their behalf. My children often tell me that when she is happy, she will play the piano; When you are depressed, you will also play the piano, especially when you are depressed, after playing the piano for ten minutes, you will be in a much better mood, and when you are tired, you will also play the piano. You see, this is the best gift parents can give to their children, right? I hope that every child can have a hobby that he likes and can accompany his or her children for a lifetime.